I spent a day this week running errands with my 85 year old cousin. She would never be taken for an 85 year old woman. One might guess her for 70, but surely no older. She's starting to talk about The Event, meaning her death. A few posts ago, I talked about how it felt to be with her through the organizing of wills, health care proxies, etc. Today we started talking about funerals and burials. Then I started to think -- what would I want carved on my tombstone? What would any of us want there?