When I first moved to L.A. I had a million of them. Reasons for not dating, not getting out there. The most embarrassing (which of course I'm about to share with you) was that when I become a director, my schedule will change drastically. Embarrassing now that I've realized that I'll be dancing in the streets if I get a paid directing gig in even the next ten years.

The thing about sex & relationship blogging is that many people don't do it all the time. I don't do it all the time. I have a personal blog where I blog about a whole host of me-centric things. So if you want to regularly read a variety of sex & relationship posts, may I suggest the BlogHer sex & relationships community?

Who is your family? Who is your community? And what would its keynote say?The final question is more recent, but I've asked myself the first two questions a lot since I started writing in this topic area about a year ago, mostly because I like to make sure I'm not completely screwing it up, writing about, oh, say, Muppets and marching bands when something a bit more, oh, familial, is called for.

Yes, I'm a little obsessed with this book. Because I read it (more than once), and it changed everything. It changed who I was. It's changed the path of my life. And I honestly can't decide if it's for better or for worse.

Look, I have a Friendster page, which now I just leave up, ignored, because I feel bad about deleting it and losing my connections there. The ones I never do anything with because I never go there anymore. And I'm on MySpace, which I like a lot more now that it's the red-headed step child and with the band pages and stuff. And I'm on LinkedIn. And, btw, flippin' Google me if you want to find me.College-born Facebook opened up its virtual doors, and I just wasn't interested, yo.

On Saturday, July 19, eleven bloggers gathered for the Feminism & Gender Room of Your Own at the BlogHer conference. Using every second of our 40 minute time slot, we introduced ourselves and the topics that are most on our minds these days. Since time was short and issues were complicated, intricate, and thoughtful, we did not have enough time to have more than a surface discussion about each one, but I thought it worth sharing our ideas to perhaps get some online conversation going. Here's what was on our minds: